for just any man/wombman you're NOT looking for someone
"man enough" "woman enough"
to be with you
becuase you're just so unique and different...
WHO ISN"T???) no
you're not looking for just any MAN/WOMAN.... BUT... you ARE looking for the exact combination of what "MAN/WOMAN enough" is...
YOU. you ARE looking for the perfect puzzle of a person where... 1. your "issues" and "traumas" are like medicine to them because th
fighting with your loved ones sucks!!!!!
...but the truth about arguing
is that those intense distressed feelings
are crucial information for the health of your honest relationship...soooooo...
HOW TO FIGHT WITHOUT DYING INSIDE
HOW TO GET OUT THOSE HURT FEELINGS WITHOUT MURDERING EACH OTHER in answer to these soul searching questions...I developed the TRIGGER CHART...IT's dope...check it out
If you are in a conflict discussion with someone...make sure you take turns.
Don't try and unravel both upsets at the same time
that will inevitably turn into a "you did this!!!"
"but you did THIS!!!"
"you hurt me...!!!!"
" only after you hurt me first!!!"
" NOOOOOO way!!!!! YOU HURT MEEEEEEE FIRST!!!!" and so on...
stalemate-attack-and cut off
over shadow all loving impulse
to listen and connect BOTH UPSETS ARE EQUALLY VALID and UNDERSTANDABLE th
you can't control how you are loved by another.
but you CAN control how you love the other. it takes a SHIT TON of practise...
but steering your thoughts towards love and understanding...
instead of condemnation, attack and blame...
is entirely within your powers. it's a learned skill... to attack and blame...
we have spent generations upon generations teaching condemnation
to our children... therefore it is also a RE LEARNED skill to forgive To
Refusal to talk about a problem keeps it alive.
The confused energy needs an outlet. If you ignore it, and refuse to hold intentional space to unravel the painful experience
it will find a way out...sometimes attacking people that aren't even involved... you are worth the effort .... the story is full of emotions that are actually our food/nourishment.
I believe, if we let our emotions flow and express, we would be a lot less addicted to stuff...as a society.
Compassion is non duality seeing beyond right and wrong
merely listening and letting in the story of that shitty thing they did nothing to protect yourself from you are safe... to merely listen and understand. (what do I need to think in order to feel safe with you meanie person?) If I don't understand how a person could hurt me
could hurt another
It's because I haven't finished my curiosity yet. There is something about what that person has done that terrifies me...on a d