If I could give just one piece of advise to couples everywhere it would be.... to vow to one another to.... NEVER EVER THREATEN BREAK UP. Discuss break up all you like. It's wonderfully healthy to be able to courageously consider all options of coupledom together. Discussing break up can be healthy as fuck. It sometimes leads to actual separation and other times brings you fearlessly closer together. But never THREATEN BREAK UP. The difference is- threatening break up occurs