You can't control how you are Loved

May 10, 2018

 

you can't control how you are loved by another.
but you CAN control how you love the other.

 

it takes a SHIT TON of practise...
but steering your thoughts towards love and understanding...
instead of condemnation, attack and blame...
is entirely within your powers.

 

it's a learned skill... to attack and blame...
we have spent generations upon generations teaching condemnation 
cut off 
and revenge
to our children...

 

therefore it is also a RE LEARNED skill to forgive

 

To widen your perspective to include compassion


widen it to include understanding...and curiosity about what the other was feeling when they hurt you so...and so.. and so again...

 

its a RE LEARNED skill to remember that you are safe
and lovable regardless of what the other is up to

 

If you felt safe...you would never attack back...

and they would never attack to begin with...if they felt safe

 

Abraham-Hicks quote (paraphrased by me!)

Someone's love for you
Someone's hatred for you
neither of them has anything to do with you.

 

Get it?

 

It means I am in charge of how I feel
when someone loves me...

that is them loving them


nothing to do with me.

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